“Blonde in America”

Click here to read “Blonde in America“, a light and playful profile of a young blonde woman who dyes her hair black. Her decision to radically change her appearance provides entertaining insights into the politics of sexual allure on an American university campus. You can read “Blonde in America” at the following link:
http://www.marcopoloartsmag.com/Blonde-in-America

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“Damnation: Protecting India’s Children”

You can read my essay “Damnation: Protecting India’s Children” by visiting the following URL:

http://killingthebuddha.com/mag/damnation/protecting-indias-children/

 

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“Gang rape cases show need for a new India for women”

Click on the link below to read my “Guest Voices” column in the “Washington Post” about the recent rape of a 23-year old medical school student in New Delhi:

http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/guest-voices/post/gang-rape-cases-show-need-for-a-new-india-for-women/2013/01/16/b8420196-6001-11e2-9940-6fc488f3fecd_blog.html#pagebreak

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“Baby love” in “The Washington Post” – “On Faith” 14 Feb 2012

You can read my recent column, “Baby love“, on Valentine’s Day by visiting the “On Faith” section of “The Washington Post”:

http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/guest-voices/post/baby-love/2012/02/14/gIQAkBzbDR_blog.html#pagebreak

 

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Thanksgiving column in “The Washington Post” – 2011

Visit the “On Faith” column at “The Washington Post” to read my recent ruminations on Thanksgiving.

http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/guest-voices/post/2011/11/24/gIQACdSorN_blog.html

 

 

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“Bollywood Weddings” in “Himal South Asian” magazine

Click here to read a review of “Bollywood Weddings” in the August 2011 edition of “Himal South Asian” magazine.

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Asian American Center at Tufts University

Thursday night I gave a talk at Tufts University’s Asian American Center to a predominantly  undergraduate student population, many of whom were second-generation Indian-American Hindus. We touched on topics such as dating, eastern versus western values, mixed marriages, inter-generational conflict and the many ways one can formulate one’s identity in a two-hour event which also included delicious catering from a local Indian restaurant.

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“Asian American Perspectives” freshman composition class

For the first of two speaking events at Tufts University, I spoke to Professor Grace Talusan’s “Asian American Perspectives” freshman composition class about the writing process behind critical, analytical essays versus memoir writing. We also discussed how “everything is a text” (billboards, clothing, etc.) and in what contexts the skills we learn and hone in the university classroom are applicable to the “real world”. It was a pleasure talking about the writing process and meeting Professors Talusan’s diverse and engaged writing students.

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“Book Review: The Cultural Politics of an Indian Wedding”

Click here to read a review of “Bollywood Weddings” in Suhaag.

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“Love-infused friendship”

Click here to read “Love-infused friendship“, my V-Day personal essay in “The Washington Post” where I describe learning about love from watching my dad and his best friend of forty-plus years interact during a weekend visit to London.

http://onfaith.washingtonpost.com/onfaith/guestvoices/2011/02/love-infused_friendship.html

“Love-infused friendship”

While I feel lucky to have friendships approaching twenty years, I recently had the opportunity to observe and understand the nature of friendship from what seemed to me the most unlikely person: my father.

Whereas I liked to think that my parents visited London to see their daughter and son-in-law’s new home, it quickly became apparent that, for my dad, spending time with his best friend since college was equally as important. “Uncle,” as I was raised to call him, is both my dad’s doppelganger and antithesis. Whereas my dad’s daily reading comprises of personal finance magazines and stock prices, my uncle’s brain food is Aristotle and he regularly practices yoga.

In London, I witnessed the delight on my dad’s face when he surprised his best friend with a cake to celebrate his 65th birthday and recent retirement. I saw them pair off and admire the cars inside the Bentley show room, point at the luxury gloves while we window shopped in Burlington Arcade, view modern sculpture in the Haunch of Venison, and stroll through Covent Garden while their wives huddled and gossiped not more than a few feet behind. I took my cue and snapped candid shots of the four simply enjoying each other’s company. The January winter air was cool and the streets crowded, but I suddenly recognized the safe and secure bubble we create when we spend time with friends wherever in the world we are when we’re with them.

Perhaps the earliest predecessor of self-help bestseller “Chicken Soup for the Soul” and the recently-emerged yet already-omnipresent genre happiness studies, is Solomon, the King of Israel and son of David’s, collection of proverbs. The venerated author of “Wisdom Literature” left a bevy of life lessons that would aid generations in transcending petty and often-times self-destructive thoughts and patterns. Along with addressing the significance of keeping one’s integrity intact and reminding us of the fleeting nature of wealth, King Solomon’s most popular and oft-quoted proverb is “A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity” (17:17).

Yet, despite the bevy of stories describing often times life-saving alliances in the Bible (David’s with Saul’s son Jonathan; Peter and Paul, united by their love for Jesus), the Western world’s greatest source for culture and morality tales has not inspired the modern world an occasion to celebrate one of life’s most simple, ancient and emotionally-gratifying routes towards happiness: friendship.

Whereas romantic love is the only opportunity in most of our pedestrian lives for the possibility of ever glimpsing transcendence when in the throes of passion, friendship inspires the opposite. In passionate love, one is elated and senses are acute; in friendship, one immediately feels relaxed in the otherwise overly-stimulating modern world. Emotional tokens such as heart-shaped platinum charms, chocolate-heart lollipops, or a warm-weather getaway don’t have a place in friendship where the only reciprocity expected are time and empathy.

My father is no longer a young man. But while spending a week with his closest friend, my father’s face revived a quality of youth I’d never seen before or, more likely, carelessly overlooked. As a result of a heavily-air conditioned flight followed by arriving in London on a particularly frigid and rainy day in January, even by UK standards, my dad quickly developed a cold, as ubiquitous for travelers in England as “Deli Belly” in India or “Pharaoh’s Revenge” in Egypt. While guiding the four around central London, we stopped by Fortnum & Mason where my charges were enthralled with the store’s collection of international teas. After sniffing and commenting on various tea leaves on display, we realized we “lost” my Uncle who had disappeared into the abyss that is the UK’s greatest luxury-food store. Debating whether we should call his cell phone, Uncle suddenly emerged carrying an F&M shopping bag the same baby-blue hue that signals that best of what luxury has to offer in the states, Tiffany’s jewelry.

Like a magician pulling a rabbit out of a hat, Uncle presented my dad with a clear bag in which a stack of three perfectly-contoured pieces of ginger-infused fudge sat, tied with a golden bow. With the romantic flourish of a medieval knight, Uncle explained that the ginger has a homeopathic property that will cure my father’s cold. My mother, aunt and I responded with a cacophony of coughs, our way of suggesting to my dad that he share this medicinal gift with the rest of us. When the fake coughs and unabashed laughter finally subsided, I turned to my father and, in front of his wife of almost forty years, my aunt and uncle, explained, “Now, that, Dad is love.”

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